Protecting Yourself from Emotional Abuse

Many don’t stop to think that words sting worse sometimes than actually getting slapped or so forth. That is why wise men say – think before you speak. There are some that are affected more by these words than others. The psychological impact of emotional mistreatment can be grave. This is basically related to a personality trait called emotional stability. People who are emotionally stable are emotionally secure, calm, resilient and stable. People low on this trait gets easily stressed out and anxious. When people hear things about themselves from others which don’t confirm with their own self image, this causes dissonance. Dissonance is an unstable state which is because of conflicting feedback and self image. In today’s stressful life this happens often and not everyone is strong enough to deal with this.

Being told that you are worthless useless and have amounted to nothing in life is something that people hear at home from an angry parent or from a superior at the work place. Being told that you are not being responsible and not performing your duties well enough is something we get all the time. But sometimes it can hurt you psychologically. The first thing that you have to do is tell that person that what he says is completely untrue and if possible avoid him. There is no point in staying around a person who is only going to hurt you. Normally, the people who are being harsh on you and so forth are those that you know and love so it’s not always so easy, but you have tell them that whatever they are trying to achieve won’t work if they hurt you. Try having an objective chat about what needs to be sorted out and how that should be done.

More often people get into heated arguments rather than behaving sensibly. Then there are always people who say bad things just in order to infuriate, irritate and imbalance you.  It leaves a person feeling worthless and has a pretty adverse affect. What one can do in such a scenario is find some friends who are going to be on your side. The more negative things you hear from a person means the more positive things you are going to have to hear for yourself.

You have to learn that with some people, you just can’t take what they say to heart. It might be hard to do, but at times, the more you ignore what they say, the more they won’t say anything. You need to learn how to deal with such people.    When you learn about emotional abuse and learn what it looks like, you can work on making it stop. There are many who have been emotionally abused and they don’t even know it.

When one feels down instead of listening to rock and rap they should fight it. Instead of running away they should face the situation. You live lives to learn from the past not to get obsessed with it. Everyone has highs and lows, everyone has strengths and weaknesses. It is important that we understand our limitations assess ourselves and not be affected by other’s assessment, especially if the other person doesn’t know us well. Never be harsh on yourself, you must know that you are only human